The American Psychiatric Association has its associates excited about defining and diagnosing a 'new' mental illness. This will undoubtedly lead to a windfall of profits for the drug companies poised to send their minions to the bought-and-paid-for doctor's offices all over the nation.
This new illness announced at a San Fransisco meeting is called Post Traumatic Embitterment Disorder or PTED.
Don't get me wrong...it is good that the field of psychiatry is recognizing the destructiveness of embitterment. But it is hardly a new diagnosis as the Bible is full examples of embittered individuals.
Lucifer was the first being to suffer from PTED. Other examples that come to mind are Cain, Baalam, Jezebel and Simon Magus.
What follows is a few working definitions of embitterment or bitterness. Then we will look at one man's pathway into bitterness and its effects. And finally, we will look at the Biblical prescription or anecdote for bitterness.
PTED occurs when after a person suffers from a loss, they cannot break free from the anger and depression naturally experienced in the grieving process. Paul warns us in Ephesians to,
"Be angry and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath." We can be angry but we are not to entertain it to the point of sin. For example, David was angry at God after He struck dead, the ark-bearers but this did not lead to sin.
Here are four definitions of bitterness:
1. Bitterness is intense anger and desire for revenge coupled with the helpless inability to do anything about it.
2. Bitterness is an obsessive occupation with self,life, and its many problems.
3. Bitter individuals defend their grudges and believe their intense pain exempts them from the need to forgive and forget.
4. Simon Magus is described by Peter as 'bitter'. This Greek word used for bitter in Strong's is 'poison'. What follows is what I believe to be the best definition.
Bitterness is drinking poison while hoping the other person will die from it. This touches on the irrational thought process of the bitter mind.
Bitterness can occur when there is a sin un-repented of. Bitterness can also occur when there is a sin or circumstance that happens to the one who becomes bitter because they are unwilling to forgive and forget and reach acceptance.
Lets follow the example of King Saul in his pathway to bitterness and see where it leads.
In I Samuel 15, Saul returns from a great victory over the Amalekites. His instructions were to destroy every man, woman, child and animal.Saul returns with King Agag and his soldiers return with much spoil. Samuel is furious with Saul for his disobedience and tells him he has committed a grevious sin against the Lord.
1Sa 15:24 And Saul said unto Samuel: 'I have sinned; for I have transgressed the commandment of the LORD, and thy words; because I feared the people, and hearkened to their voice.
1Sa 15:25 Now therefore, I pray thee, pardon my sin, and return with me, that I may worship the LORD.'
1Sa 15:26 And Samuel said unto Saul: 'I will not return with thee; for thou hast rejected the word of the LORD, and the LORD hath rejected thee from being king over Israel.'
1Sa 15:27 And as Samuel turned about to go away, he laid hold upon the skirt of his robe, and it rent.
1Sa 15:28 And Samuel said unto him: 'The LORD hath rent the kingdom of Israel from thee this day, and hath given it to a neighbour of thine, that is better than thou.
1Sa 15:29 And also the Glory of Israel will not lie nor repent; for He is not a man, that He should repent.'
1Sa 15:30 Then he said: 'I have sinned; yet honour me now, I pray thee, before the elders of my people, and before Israel, and return with me, that I may worship the LORD thy God.'
Because of his disobedience, Saul was to suffer a traumatic loss; the Kingdom of Israel was to be taken from him and given to someone better than him. Saul's response was not one of repentance. He blames the people for his sin and then is only concerned with appearances by begging that Samuel return with him. Saul's refusal to repent leads to torment from a vexing spirit. This spirit is there to influence and promote the fruits of bitterness. Saul begins to wallow in guilt, depression and self-pity.
David is that 'better' man chosen to replace Saul as king over Israel. David is the champion who kills Goliath and gains instant reknown in Israel.
1Sa 18:6 And it came to pass as they came, when David returned from the slaughter of the Philistine, that the women came out of all the cities of Israel, singing and dancing, to meet king Saul, with timbrels, with joy, and with three-stringed instruments.
1Sa 18:7 And the women sang one to another in their play, and said: Saul hath slain his thousands, and David his ten thousands.
1Sa 18:8 And Saul was very wroth, and this saying displeased him; and he said: 'They have ascribed unto David ten thousands, and to me they have ascribed but thousands; and all he lacketh is the kingdom!'
1Sa 18:9 And Saul eyed David from that day and forward.
1Sa 18:10 And it came to pass on the morrow, that an evil spirit from God came mightily upon Saul, and he raved in the midst of the house; and David played with his hand, as he did day by day; and Saul had his spear in his hand.
1Sa 18:11 And Saul cast the spear; for he said: 'I will smite David even to the wall.' And David stepped aside out of his presence twice.
1Sa 18:12 And Saul was afraid of David, because the LORD was with him, and was departed from Saul.
1Sa 18:13 Therefore Saul removed him from him, and made him his captain over a thousand; and he went out and came in before the people.
1Sa 18:14 And David had great success in all his ways; and the LORD was with him.
1Sa 18:15 And when Saul saw that he had great success, he stood in awe [great fear] of him.
Now we see the embittered Saul moving into intense feelings of jealousy, fear and resentment. Saul now wants to murder David and this leads to more than a decade-long pursuit.
As we get into I Samuel 28, Samuel is now dead and there are no prophets able to give Saul access to the Word of God. In his bitter desperation, Saul seeks the aid of a medium. A demon is conjured up and is given to prophesy to Saul one last time.
1Sa 28:3 Now Samuel was dead, and all Israel had lamented him, and buried him in Ramah, even in his own city. And Saul had put away those that divined by a ghost or a familiar spirit out of the land.
1Sa 28:4 And the Philistines gathered themselves together, and came and pitched in Shunem; and Saul gathered all Israel together, and they pitched in Gilboa.
1Sa 28:5 And when Saul saw the host of the Philistines, he was afraid, and his heart trembled greatly.
1Sa 28:6 And when Saul inquired of the LORD, the LORD answered him not, neither by dreams, nor by Urim, nor by prophets.
1Sa 28:7 Then said Saul unto his servants: 'Seek me a woman that divineth by a ghost, that I may go to her, and inquire of her.' And his servants said to him: 'Behold, there is a woman that divineth by a ghost at En-dor.'
1Sa 28:8 And Saul disguised himself, and put on other raiment, and went, he and two men with him, and they came to the woman by night; and he said: 'Divine unto me, I pray thee, by a ghost, and bring me up whomsoever I shall name unto thee.'
1Sa 28:9 And the woman said unto him: 'Behold, thou knowest what Saul hath done, how he hath cut off those that divine by a ghost or a familiar spirit out of the land; wherefore then layest thou a snare for my life, to cause me to die?'
1Sa 28:10 And Saul swore to her by the LORD, saying: 'As the LORD liveth, there shall no punishment happen to thee for this thing.'
1Sa 28:11 Then said the woman: 'Whom shall I bring up unto thee?' And he said: 'Bring me up Samuel.'
1Sa 28:12 And when the woman saw Samuel, she cried with a loud voice; and the woman spoke to Saul, saying: 'Why hast thou deceived me? for thou art Saul.'
1Sa 28:13 And the king said unto her: 'Be not afraid; for what seest thou?' And the woman said unto Saul: 'I see a godlike being coming up out of the earth.'
1Sa 28:14 And he said unto her: 'What form is he of?' And she said: 'An old man cometh up; and he is covered with a robe.' And Saul perceived that it was Samuel, and he bowed with his face to the ground, and prostrated himself.
1Sa 28:15 And Samuel said to Saul: 'Why hast thou disquieted me, to bring me up?' And Saul answered: 'I am sore distressed; for the Philistines make war against me, and God is departed from me, and answereth me no more, neither by prophets, nor by dreams; therefore I have called thee, that thou mayest make known unto me what I shall do.'
1Sa 28:16 And Samuel said: 'Wherefore then dost thou ask of me, seeing the LORD is departed from thee, and is become thine adversary?
1Sa 28:17 And the LORD hath wrought for Himself; as He spoke by me; and the LORD hath rent the kingdom out of thy hand, and given it to thy neighbour, even to David.
1Sa 28:18 Because thou didst not hearken to the voice of the LORD, and didst not execute His fierce wrath upon Amalek, therefore hath the LORD done this thing unto thee this day.
1Sa 28:19 Moreover the LORD will deliver Israel also with thee into the hand of the Philistines; and to-morrow shalt thou and thy sons be with me; the LORD will deliver the host of Israel also into the hand of the Philistines.'
1Sa 28:20 Then Saul fell straightway his full length upon the earth, and was sore afraid, because of the words of Samuel; and there was no strength in him; for he had eaten no bread all the day, nor all the night.
And yet the very next day, Saul went out to be killed just as the demon had prophesied would happen to him. Saul's embitterment led him to complete irrationality and self-destructiveness. His road to bitterness ended where sin always leads...to death.
So what is the anecdote to bitterness? Dr. Paul the Apostle outlines a prescription in Philippians 4:6-9.
Php 4:6, "Be anxious for nothing"
Don't be anxious and stressed out. Don't dwell on the loss and the pain. Don't coddle your suffering and wallow in self-pity. Be angry and sin not. Repent and/or forgive and forget, which ever is necessary to move on.
Php 4:6, "...but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God."
Pray. Speak to God with thanksgiving. Focus on your blessings and what God has in store for those who love and obey His word.
Php 4:8, "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."
Meditate on what is good. Purify your thoughts.
Mind-set is a choice. Choose that which is good and gives life.
Php 4:9, "Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you."
Follow the good examples of those around you. If there are none, then it is time to find new friends. Paul was a servant-leader who urges us all to pattern our behaviors and actions after him. Put your time and efforts in serving others and you will more quickly and easily forgive and forget your own sufferings.
As Saul was a type of Satan in many instances, so was David a type of Christ. There are many Psalms written by David that illustrate his ability to apply the remedy of bitterness. Psalm 57 was written in exile, hiding in a cave from the threat of destruction from Saul. Again, recall that this went on for more than 10 years! How much of this would you have been able to endure before becoming bitter? Read this psalm very carefully and appreciate David's faith, fore-sight and perseverance in choosing to be positive and uplifting even unto us. This remedy is eternally greater than any drug millions will soon be taking for post traumatic embitterment disorder.
Psa 57:1 Be merciful unto me, O God, be merciful unto me: for my soul trusteth in thee: yea, in the shadow of thy wings will I make my refuge, until these calamities be overpast.
Psa 57:2 I will cry unto God most high; unto God that performeth all things for me.
Psa 57:3 He shall send from heaven, and save me from the reproach of him that would swallow me up. Selah. God shall send forth his mercy and his truth.
Psa 57:4 My soul is among lions: and I lie even among them that are set on fire, even the sons of men, whose teeth are spears and arrows, and their tongue a sharp sword.
Psa 57:5 Be thou exalted, O God, above the heavens; let thy glory be above all the earth.
Psa 57:6 They have prepared a net for my steps; my soul is bowed down: they have digged a pit before me, into the midst whereof they are fallen themselves. Selah.
Psa 57:7 My heart is fixed, O God, my heart is fixed: I will sing and give praise.
Psa 57:8 Awake up, my glory; awake, psaltery and harp: I myself will awake early.
Psa 57:9 I will praise thee, O Lord, among the people: I will sing unto thee among the nations.
Psa 57:10 For thy mercy is great unto the heavens, and thy truth unto the clouds.
Psa 57:11 Be thou exalted, O God, above the heavens: let thy glory be above all the earth.